Is it wrong to want to pay myself through college - Page 2 - United Bimmer Community

**ChrisWorrell** · 07-24-2006, 02:35 PM

This turned out to be quite a good thread in terms of advice and help. Hopefully people other then me can see this and it will help them

**EnvyM3** · 07-24-2006, 02:43 PM

If they are willing to pay and you don't let them then.......you are crazy!

You have no idea how many people out there would be in heaven if someone was willing to pay for them. Some good advice in this thrad though. Dudesky put it best when saying that their differences are most likely no reflection on you. Trust me, I felt the same way when my parents got divorced when I was 18 but after a couple years, I realized that my parents became much happier individuals on their own and with their new significant others. Since my rents got divorced, my father was forced to pay for my college and thankfully so. Otherwise I would have graduated with $160K or so debt.....and that's no way to start off your life.

Good luck and please let them pay.

drz · 07-24-2006, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by EnvyM3

... I would have graduated with $160K or so debt.....and that's no way to start off your life...

true true true true

**///M Power** · 07-24-2006, 05:15 PM

Help your parents out as much as you can.

**dinan540** · 07-25-2006, 12:42 PM

I paid for college, graduate school, and dental school myself. My parents helped with college books and that was it. I did graduate with school debt, but in my opinion, that is the best debt that you can acrue. I truly appreciate my degrees and my ability to earn enough to pay my student debt (which on a monthly basis costs more than a new M5 payment). But if you parents can and are willing to pay for some/most of college, I would let them help. It will be a relief when you are done with school if you don't have that debt hanging over your head.

**01Mike330i** · 07-25-2006, 01:01 PM

As a parent of a teenager, I feel I don't owe her a college education.

I think that she'll take her education far more serious if she's footing the bill on her own, instead of letting me cover everything. I've told her if she decides she's going to go on to college, I'll gladly help with money for books, spending cash, etc. etc. but it's going to be up to her to secure financing.

drz · 07-25-2006, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by 99mike323i

As a parent of a teenager, I feel I don't owe her a college education.

I think that she'll take her education far more serious if she's footing the bill on her own, instead of letting me cover everything. I've told her if she decides she's going to go on to college, I'll gladly help with money for books, spending cash, etc. etc. but it's going to be up to her to secure financing.

The following is not to attack your parenting at all. I just want to mention that to me, at least so far, the whole idea of taking things more seriously and or appreciating them more when one works/pays for it is not true. I am very thankful for what my dad did for me. I did far better and worked far more on my academics when my dad paid than I ever have in grad school (on my own dime).

Furthermore, I don't think Chris' parents feel like they owe him an education. I think they just want to pay for it.

I am planning my future so that if I have children, I have the option to offer to pay for their college education. My spending and savings take that into consideration.

**xsperf** · 07-25-2006, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by 99mike323i

As a parent of a teenager, I feel I don't owe her a college education.

I think that she'll take her education far more serious if she's footing the bill on her own, instead of letting me cover everything. I've told her if she decides she's going to go on to college, I'll gladly help with money for books, spending cash, etc. etc. but it's going to be up to her to secure financing.

right on brother!! damn kids!! haha, but seriously, i agree with you, thats how my family does it, you wanna go to college, you pay for it, although my dad wouldnt mind helping me out a little bit

**EnvyM3** · 07-25-2006, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by drz

The following is not to attack your parenting at all. I just want to mention that to me, at least so far, the whole idea of taking things more seriously and or appreciating them more when one works/pays for it is not true. I am very thankful for what my dad did for me. I did far better and worked far more on my academics when my dad paid than I ever have in grad school (on my own dime).

Furthermore, I don't think Chris' parents feel like they owe him an education. I think they just want to pay for it.

I am planning my future so that if I have children, I have the option to offer to pay for their college education. My spending and savings take that into consideration.

You are definitely among the few that will not work harder and appreciate something more if you pay for it yourself. I know when my dad was paying for school, I complete fucked off and didn't appreciate what I had handed to me. Now when I think of all my accomplishments and all the things that I have paid for myself, I definitely have a greater appreciation for those things and take much better care of them as a result.

drz · 07-25-2006, 06:02 PM

^^ I guess I am in the minority. I think I value other people's property/work more than I do my own. Since grad school was on my $$$, I didn't mind too much, since it was my money anyway. I hate to mess up what other people have worked for.

nick_318is · 07-25-2006, 07:28 PM

I know i'm being paid for by my parents and I think if I had to pay I would work harder then I do.

If I have kids I will make it so that I can pay for them if they want, but there will be things they have to do to continue to have me pay for it.

The other solution is to not have kids at all.