Ever have one of those moments?

[catalyst]

When you have absolutely no fucking idea what just happened, what is going on, or what someone is thinking?

Ive been friends with this chick for a while, and she asked me to prom (shes a senior), so i called her up and asked her to chill with me today after school, so me, her, and her friend go to the beach along with my other friend who was only with us for like 2 hours or so... anyway, we chill all day long and have a pretty good time.. I go home and meet her parents, which i thought was fucking weird and like totally pushing me into some weird relationship because of how she introduced me.. like as a boyfriend or something, anyways, i have dinner, blah blah, her friends leave and i am chilling with her alone in her room.. she is being really awkward and there is mucho tension.. we're watching a movie btw.. so after like 30 minutes or so of chilling there i just look at her and move in for a kiss, i say something stupid like 'i have wanted to kiss you for the longest time' and we make out for about 10 seconds

anyway she has absolutely no idea how to kiss, i mean its not that bad, but she definetly was really tense and was having trouble letting herself go.. so i was just like slowing way down and then she backed off as if she wanted me to get ontop of her, so i do... then we kiss again, and about 10 seconds later she is like 'hmmmph, this is really weird', and i agreed with her. So i backed off and we started talking.. probably the only good thing at this point was that the first kiss pre-tension was gone so it wasnt awkward at all.

Then she goes on to tell me that i really dont know her, that shes never had a boyfriend before (why would this matter at this point?) and that shes never hooked up with a guy except for when partying. So i just look at her and i ask her 'What just happened?' and i tell her that i dont even care, she can tell me absolutely anything at all.. then she says that she really likes me and i ask her if she had a good time today. She replies that she really did and i tell her that i like her a lot too. Then we talk more about what happened and i let her know that im not pressuring her into anything at all, then she somehow starts talking about how shes not sure if she wants a relationship, and i just am like WTF!?!, (thinking to my self i am like: when did i ever let you think that i wanted a real relationship?) then i tell her i like her and that i just wanted to have a good time tonight.. then she chills out and we finish the movie.. talking a little about random shit inbetween. I say ive got to go, and i head downstairs... she follows me about 10 seconds later and stands by the sink as im getting a drink. When i finish my drink i put it down and she looks at me and gives me a big ass hug.. and i am just like dumbfounded.. i look at her and i just say, you realize how fucking ass backwards confused i am right now.. and i am just like whatever, and i say il talk to her later and i leave...

So i ask you all, what the fuck happened to me tonight? Is this chick just straight up fucking insane, or is there something im not seeing here?

[Numark318i]

Originally Posted by catalyst

When you have absolutely no fucking idea what just happened, what is going on, or what someone is thinking?

Ive been friends with this chick for a while, and she asked me to prom (shes a senior), so i called her up and asked her to chill with me today after school, so me, her, and her friend go to the beach along with my other friend who was only with us for like 2 hours or so... anyway, we chill all day long and have a pretty good time.. I go home and meet her parents, which i thought was fucking weird and like totally pushing me into some weird relationship because of how she introduced me.. like as a boyfriend or something, anyways, i have dinner, blah blah, her friends leave and i am chilling with her alone in her room.. she is being really awkward and there is mucho tension.. we're watching a movie btw.. so after like 30 minutes or so of chilling there i just look at her and move in for a kiss, i say something stupid like 'i have wanted to kiss you for the longest time' and we make out for about 10 seconds

anyway she has absolutely no idea how to kiss, i mean its not that bad, but she definetly was really tense and was having trouble letting herself go.. so i was just like slowing way down and then she backed off as if she wanted me to get ontop of her, so i do... then we kiss again, and about 10 seconds later she is like 'hmmmph, this is really weird', and i agreed with her. So i backed off and we started talking.. probably the only good thing at this point was that the first kiss pre-tension was gone so it wasnt awkward at all.

Then she goes on to tell me that i really dont know her, that shes never had a boyfriend before (why would this matter at this point?) and that shes never hooked up with a guy except for when partying. So i just look at her and i ask her 'What just happened?' and i tell her that i dont even care, she can tell me absolutely anything at all.. then she says that she really likes me and i ask her if she had a good time today. She replies that she really did and i tell her that i like her a lot too. Then we talk more about what happened and i let her know that im not pressuring her into anything at all, then she somehow starts talking about how shes not sure if she wants a relationship, and i just am like WTF!?!, (thinking to my self i am like: when did i ever let you think that i wanted a real relationship?) then i tell her i like her and that i just wanted to have a good time tonight.. then she chills out and we finish the movie.. talking a little about random shit inbetween. I say ive got to go, and i head downstairs... she follows me about 10 seconds later and stands by the sink as im getting a drink. When i finish my drink i put it down and she looks at me and gives me a big ass hug.. and i am just like dumbfounded.. i look at her and i just say, you realize how fucking ass backwards confused i am right now.. and i am just like whatever, and i say il talk to her later and i leave...

So i ask you all, what the fuck happened to me tonight? Is this chick just straight up fucking insane, or is there something im not seeing here?

hmp. I feel you on that one.

Maybe by her not wanting a relationship she means she actually does? But i guess since she has never had one she doesnt know what she wants. I guess just show her a good time and go for it again? Be persisstant but not an asshole if u know what i mean.

also...if you really like her, then show it. Biggest mistake i have ever made is not showing how i truly feel. If you just want some, and then your out then dont make shit up to get it. Thats just fucked up.

ok idk. Im tired.
hope that helped.

[witeshark]

I had that kind of date too. You're not alone

[Dudesky]

Ehh, she'd inexperienced. Back off, but let her know you're around. She'll figure it out, for better or worse. But don't read into it.

[ogpro]

The fact that she's never had a relationship before should give you major clues about why she's reacting this way (that is, if she's telling the truth). She has no clue where to go or what to think of it. It is probably the first or second time for her to deal with this situation so all kinds of thoughts are running into her mind. Put yourself in a similar situation in HER shoes and you'd be freaking out too. I'm positive she didn't mean to freak YOU out, in fact that's probably the complete opposite of what she wants to do.

So just give her space like dudesky sez. She'll come around, maybe feel things around and figure out you're cool and that ya'll can figure this out together. The kissing part will come around, for the first few times she will probably try to mimic what you are doing to her coz she's not really in tune with you yet. In her head she's probably going "OH MY GOD I'M KISSING A GUY", and that will go on for a few more times. When she starts to relax and actually enjoys what you are doing without thinking too much, it should get better. Good luck.

[TJsBimm]

Ya it seems like she's into you but lack of experience. You'll know soon enough if this will go anywhere. Virgin or no just curious, i like women that have experience. Knowing how to read a girl is like a gift, cause if you know how to then you'll never have any problems. Trust me

[jybute]

Originally Posted by Dudesky

Ehh, she'd inexperienced. Back off, but let her know you're around. She'll figure it out, for better or worse. But don't read into it.

Exactly, dont read into it. Dont ever read into anything a lady does, there is nothing to read, I honestly think that every impulse they have is completely random. Thats what is so cool about them.

[Red_Rocket]

ha ha i love when guys podt all their girl problems on here,

like dudsky said dont try to look to deep into girls actions, ive tried for a while only to fail, so you kinda have do deal with whatever they throw at you at the present time is.

just give her her space, go to prom and see what happens, you played your cards, now its her turn

speaking of which, i have to be at prom pictures in an hour....oh shit!!

[xsperf]

lol, id say your both "confused"(screwed up)

lol jk

[nick_318is]

yea man sounds pretty crazy i would say stick with it and see what happens

[TJsBimm]

whatever women love the games and we pretend to play along, thats all. but ya inexperience good luck with that shit

[doughboyea]

Just go with the flow man....dont' stess it.

I wouldnt' mind the inexperience, but immaturity... that's where it gets fuckin annoying.

Dough

[BMWLotAttendant]

I hate the playing games. I just want to know straight up....

Yeah, I know the drama and emotions are all in there too, but just be honest and communicate what you want and you'll both have a better understanding.

If you met her parents, that's got to mean something. Most girls don't bring the "boyz" home.

Sounds pretty confusing. Next time you hang out....it should be better.

There is going to be awkwardness the first time for everything. You've got it over with, now it should be clear sailing that is if you want to get with her.

[Cellardoor]

Hey dude,

I dont know if anyone mentioned this yet (i got to lazy to read all the posts ) but 9 times out of 10 u wont know what the fuck women are thinking or doing! so the only thing u can do is take it in stride and handle it the best u can..... wich in the case i would say not to lean on her to hard one way or the other, (I.E. dont tell her how much she is confusing u , she will just think u are pressuring her to make a choice, and dont tell her that u dont give a fuck, she may think u arnt interested at all and cut it u off even worse.) so..... i guess the point of the ramblings would be to just "go with the flow" and let her know u are chill with whatever she may choose..... good luck dude keep us posted.

-Hutch-

[witeshark]

Nice Hutch