Getting mad cold feet! - Page 3 - United Bimmer Community

**jrhaile** · 08-09-2005, 02:18 PM

I did tell her. She doesn't accept shit though.

**jrhaile** · 08-09-2005, 02:19 PM

oh and her parents want to have a sit down talk and try and figure things out. I'm sure this will destroy our relationship but that's okay with me. nearly 6 years with the same person since I was in HS. I think it's time to move on and experience other things and people.

DEATH2000 · 08-09-2005, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by jrhaile

oh and her parents want to have a sit down talk and try and figure things out. I'm sure this will destroy our relationship but that's okay with me. nearly 6 years with the same person since I was in HS. I think it's time to move on and experience other things and people.

Good for u man, maybe u should move on.

**komodo** · 08-09-2005, 02:38 PM

You seem to be holding together quite well, which is unusual for someone breaking off a 6 year relationship, heh.

I honestly believe you are making the right decision if you feel that many regrets and worries. Better to abort while you still can, then either be stuck unhappy, or go through a divorce.

Make sure you know what you're doing before you act, but if you do, then more power to you. And you have my respect for being so objective of the situation.

**jrhaile** · 08-09-2005, 04:39 PM

Lando was 100% right. I am not ready to get married.

Storamin · 08-09-2005, 04:54 PM

It's a good thing you found out BEFORE the wedding date.

**defkon99** · 08-09-2005, 05:52 PM

Dude , i think it would be better if u guys just waited man, maybe get a Small Apt together, see if u guys really get along as well as u think.

that my position: ive been with my chick for 5 years and live with her now and we may have are ups and downs, but yea thats what i do take it for a test drive

**94bmw325i** · 08-09-2005, 06:13 PM

so wait was she the one that came up with the idea of you two getting married? hmm could move to the east coast and work on my car :P

**xsperf** · 08-09-2005, 10:57 PM

so can someone explain this to me, could she have really taken the BMW even though the title is in his name? man if that is true id just the title in my dad/mom's name

**komodo** · 08-10-2005, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by defkon99@netscape.net

Dude , i think it would be better if u guys just waited man, maybe get a Small Apt together, see if u guys really get along as well as u think.

that my position: ive been with my chick for 5 years and live with her now and we may have are ups and downs, but yea thats what i do take it for a test drive

A great idea.

**94bmw325i** · 08-10-2005, 10:14 AM

yeah if you get married. Damn so we have 5 cars so my mom would get 2 even tho they're all in my dads name... Not like my parents would divorce tho. So if we had 5 cars would they make it equal price wise, so someone gets the 1 of our good cars and 2 cheaper ones, then someone gets 2 good ones, I dunno.

**Spieluhr** · 08-10-2005, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by jrhaile

Lando was 100% right. I am not ready to get married.

wow dude, that is a hell of a thing to say after 6 years!!!

I think it takes a lot of guts to call a wedding and an entire relationship off. But if you are not ready then you are not only doing it for you but also for her. If you're just going to be miserable then it's not fair to her. But I understand. I also understand that probably 99% of pre-marriages have some major issues.

If you need a place to go or just wanna run the shit out of your car with someone give me a jingle.

Hope everything works out.

**LandoAWD** · 08-11-2005, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by jrhaile

Lando was 100% right. I am not ready to get married.

I'm sure it sounded harsh, but brotha, I've been there and done that. My wife and I were together for 2yrs in HS, 1 1/2 yrs after, and decided we weren't ready to move on. We were both too immature.

Fast forward two years: We meet randomly and decide to try a date. Fast forward 3 years: I'm married and loving it.

**cainchapman** · 08-12-2005, 01:54 AM

No worries for me. But we'd been living together and travelling the world for 7 years. Lando is right, it's a compromise. I don't care how much either of us earns, or who spends what. As long as we're having a great time.

What goes around, comes around. Good luck, it sounds like you made the right decision from the thread.

You'll be fine. Go out with the lads and have a few lagers and it'll be good. Cheers from Down Under.