I'm not sure there's a problem here, or maybe I'm not understanding what you're trying to describe. Everything you're describing seems to indicate that the engine rpm's aren't matched to the shift. Not to insult you, but are you sure you're rev matching?
Originally Posted by Tochenzo
also...lets say im in 4th gear cruising, if i step on it all of a sudden, it takes 1-2 seconds before my rpm's actually increase
How fast are you cruising? Higher gears (3rd, 4th, & 5th) will lag at first if the car is below the speed range for that particular gear.