There seems to be light at the end of the tunnel
Tommorrow, my friend that I always get OEM BMW parts from at employee cost is going to call a few techs he knows, and he is pretty sure one of them has done this swap before.
My dad's mech also will be calling other mechs that he knows and think they have done this before and he'll let me know.
My uncle knows this guy that only works on BMW's and he's calling him tommorrow as well.
And last but not least, this guy that has an E36 332 has done cams before and he might be able to help me out too.