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Sorry for the late reply. I feel the best way to teach kids responsibility to is give them a fixer-upper car and help them make it better. That way they appreciate what they have more.
On to that. Their is a Bentley Service Manual for the E36 located at the top of the E36 Subforum. Feel free to download it. Should you have any additional questions feel free to ask!
And as always, dont forget to post pictures!