Yay.......
New DME was the solution - tested everything else so it had to be it. Car leaped to be started after installing and is purring like a kitten. Thanks to BIG EVIL and his guidance plus his offer to look at the car though it was 3 states from him. Got an exact match from Bavaian Recycling for resonable price - but who cares the car runs and its out of the front of the house so I dont look like a Jeff Foxworthy Red Neck.
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