I agree with your statements and I believe that you are correct. The approach that I was going to take was to do the following:
1. Have the clutch inspected by independant mechanics to get a their consensus regarding it's failure. Based on thier assessment do the following.
a. If it is operator abuse, shut my mouth and apologize for waisting everyones time.
b. If it is a defective part, seek compensation from UUC.
c. If it was an installation error, advise BMW that although they do not warranty the parts, they do warranty their work.
d. If it the independant mechanics cannot determine the cause, shut my mouth (without the apology of course)
I guess I am so frustrated because I have owned BMWs since I left the military 20 years ago. I have never had any issue with dealers here in the Washington/Baltimore area. This is not to say I have not had any issues with the cars. We have had a love/hate relationship for 20 years, but the dealers have always been professional.