well apparently 2a.m. in a dimmly lit garage when you're exhausted and upset isn't a good time or place to check for blown fuses, because i checked the fuses last night multiple times and didn't see anything wrong, got it into the sunlight today, saw 3 clearly blown fuses, switched em out, everything works fine, just have to figure out how to CORRECTLY hardwire a v1 to an e36 now
thanks to everyone for the help