Chrisdoesntknow you make very good points.
and hoppy. you say that gays are unnatural because they cannot reproduce w/o the help of technology. ok, valid point. but what about men and women who are sterile, what about men and women who never even get to the age where they can reproduce due to a fatal illness? are they not welcome to be "natural" in the world, are men and women who cannot successfully reproduce not allowed to marry?
and i can see your point of the church has to decide if it will marry gay couples, but that's where church and state get mixed together and i think that is a big mistake.